Can you take children out of school to celebrate Eid al Fitr?

Posted on 9th April 20249th April 2024 by McAlister Family Law

Can you take children out of school to celebrate Eid al Fitr?

Eid al Fitr and the end of Ramadan is an incredibly important occasion for many families and an opportunity for parents who celebrate it to spend this special time with their children. But what if Eid falls on a weekday? Here, Nikki Bradley offers her advice for parents looking at taking their children out of school to celebrate the occasion on Wednesday.

For separated parents, celebrating Eid can present its own challenges and for parents whose religious views are not shared, there could be further challenges still. As Eid moves with the moon, it can be difficult for parents to plan arrangements around this event, which can lead to a strain being placed on co-parenting relationships. If Eid does not fall on a weekend, some parents may consider whether they would like to take their child out of school to celebrate the occasion.

Education is of course one of the key corner stones of any child’s upbringing and development and every school day should be treated as just as important as the last. However, there will be instances when children are required to miss school and the Department of Education sets out the circumstances in which this is acceptable. One of those circumstances if when an authorised absence is granted for the purposes of religious observance.

If you would like to take your child out of school to celebrate Eid, it is very important to discuss this issue with your co-parent first. Parents should be making decisions regarding education jointly and working together in the best interests of their child. This is particularly important if the relationship with your co-parent can be strained, and you find communication difficult. Making unilateral decisions without your co-parent’s input will only inflame any existing tensions between you and will make trust difficult to build over time.

If you approach this conversation with openness, transparency, and respect, you will hopefully be able to reach an agreement with your co-parent as to the plans for this special event. If you both agree that your child should celebrate this event outside of school, then the next step would be to approach the school in advance and seek their permission for your child’s absence to be authorised. Whilst it is a matter for the school as to whether that request is granted, many local authorities consider that Headteachers and their staff should have the religious and cultural needs of their children in the forefront of their minds and give serious consideration to such requests for time off during periods of religious observance.

If you cannot agree on whether your child should attend school during Eid, then it would be a good idea to consider inviting your co-parent to mediation to discuss matters in a safe, guided environment with a neutral professional to avoid tensions escalating.

If you need advice on this topic, or any other matters concerning divorce or family law, please get in touch with our team at McAlister Family Law.

Co-parenting on Mother’s Day

Posted on 7th March 20247th March 2024 by McAlister Family Law

Co-parenting on Mother’s Day

Whilst Mother’s Day is a special time of year, celebrating the enduring love and connection between mothers and their children, for many families, it can be a difficult day. Here, Charlotte Procter looks at how communication, flexibility and planning can keep the best interest of the Child/ren at heart when Co-parenting on Mother’s Day.

There are now over 2.5 million separated families in the UK and this occasion can especially present practical challenges and emotional complexities for families post-separation.

Research consistently underscores the benefits of children maintaining positive relationships with both parents post-separation. These benefits include improved emotional resilience, academic performance, and overall well-being.

It is important that parents remain focused on what is best for the children and take into consideration their wishes and feelings. It is also important to bear in mind the emotional impact on the child if they were not to see their mother on Mother’s Day, and equally if they were not able to see their father on Father’s Day.

An unamicable breakup can involve emotions and resentment. It is important for parents not to allow these feelings to impact their child’s relationship with their other parent. If a child is aware of hostility between their parents, this can have a negative impact on their relationship with their parents.

Special occasions such as Mother’s Day can often be overlooked by parents when making agreements in relation to contact, and making these agreements can be a big task for parents who are not on amicable terms.

Planning in Advance

It is therefore beneficial that discussions about special occasions are had in advance, allowing arrangements to be made in enough time. Having a clear and agreed plan will benefit the children and remove any uncertainty.

Communication is Key

It is also important that parents maintain open and respectful communication whilst making these arrangements. Co-parenting apps, such as talking parents, can assist parents in agreeing contact arrangements for the children.

Remain Flexible

Parents will need to remain flexible with the arrangements made and ensure they remain child focused as changes may need to be made to these arrangements as the children get older.

It may be that the parents already have an agreement in place and Mother’s Day may fall on a day when the child is meant to be with their father. It may therefore be necessary for parents to swap or change weekends to allow the child to spend time with their mother on Mother’s Day, and equally for them to spend time with their father on Father’s Day.

These arrangements can be even more difficult for LGBTQ families as they may need to consider whether to split the day or alternate years.

Encouragement

It is important for parents to support their children in expressing their love and appreciation for their other parent on special occasions, and if they are able to, to help them plan thoughtful gestures or gifts.

Another important consideration is ensuring that children feel like they have the endorsement of the other parent to have a good time, to enable them to make positive memories on important special occasions like Mother’s Day.

Other Options Available

If parents cannot reach an agreement between themselves, going to mediation may be useful. This is a cheaper alternative than going to court and the mediators can help the parents to reach an agreement.

Another useful option, before considering seeking assistance from the courts, may be to seek advice from a qualified solicitor or legal professional.

However, in situations where an agreement has broken down or cannot be reached, it may be necessary for parents to look to the family to court to help them define the time that the children spend with each parent. The child’s welfare is of paramount importance within the family court and so, as part of the court procedures, the child’s wishes and feeling are taken into account.

Regardless of how parents may feel about one another co-parenting is a collaborative effort. By prioritising open communication and making practical agreements, separated parents can create meaningful Mother’s Day celebrations ensuring their children make positive memories with both parents.

If you need advice on this topic, or any other matters concerning divorce or family law, please get in touch with our team at McAlister Family Law.

Peaceful co-parenting at Christmas

Posted on 11th December 2023 by McAlister Family Law

Peaceful co-parenting at Christmas

As the festive season is rapidly approaching, most parents are busy planning the Christmas shop, visiting Santa and ensuring that the Christmas elves know what is on their children’s wish list. Here, Amanda McAlister, Managing Partner of McAlister Family Law, looks at the stresses of separated families over Christmas and offers her top tips for peaceful co-parenting.

For separated parents, deciding how the children are to spend their time over Christmas can be extremely stressful, especially when they do not agree. If arrangements are not finalised before the festive break, this can lead to tensions becoming even more fraught, the result being that no one actually then looks forward to Christmas, never mind enjoying it.

As expert child and family lawyers, we are starting to see a significant increase in client enquiries surrounding Christmas contact. Such enquiries vary from how a parent can prevent the other from seeing the children, to imposing a contact arrangement that is unfair to the other. As Christmas is the most magical time of the year, emotions are high, and people do tend to become entrenched in their positions.

I am a divorce parent with two children. I share care with my ex-husband and therefore have experience not only as a children lawyer but also as a parent who does not always see my children on Christmas day. I recently appeared on the BBC Morning Live programme to talk about my top tips for peaceful parenting over the festive period which are:

Children come first.

Remember that Christmas is about what is right for the children. Not what is right for you personally, Grandma or Christmas routines that have previously been in place. Children can adapt and should grow up having memories of special times with both parents. Not just one.

Santa can multitask.

With notification, Santa can multitask and deliver presents to multiple addresses.

Whilst the law does not set out precise rules on how contact should be divided, the view is that children should spend Christmas with both parents. This can be achieved by one parent having Christmas Eve until 2pm on Christmas day and the other having the rest of the time on Christmas day through to the 27^thof December. This arrangement would then be alternated the following year.

For those that don’t relish the thought of a child’s Christmas day being interrupted by going to the other parents halfway through the day, they can agree an arrangement which will involve the children spending Christmas Eve to Boxing day with one parent and then boxing day through to the 27^th or 28^th with the other. Again, this is alternated. This has always worked for my children as they then get to relax and enjoy presents for the whole day and are less grumpy on boxing day when they come to me or go to their dads.

Grow with the children.

Arrangements that were right for a child at 4 years of age may not be right for when they are 14. Trying to force arrangements on older children can create further upset and distress which should be avoided. If you have teenage children, talk to them about what would work for them. This way they feel that they are being listened to and will actually engage in the family celebrations.

Christmas giving

Whilst relations with your ex may still be raw or tense, it is important that this is not seen or felt by the children. If they know that one parent is not happy with the arrangements and makes that clear verbally or through actions, it will impact on the children’s ability to relax and have a good time. This can have consequences in terms of how a child in the long run will recollect their enjoyment of Christmas. Always try to buy a small gift for the children to take to the other parent’s house and encourage them to write a nice card to take with them. That way the children feel that they have the endorsement of the parent that they are not with that day to have a good time.

Co-parenting can be tough but if you always have what is right for the children at the forefront of your mind you will get it right. My son is now approaching 15years of age. He regularly reminds his father and I that we are an “embarrassment” and “sad”. The message that I am trying to get across, is that time flies and before you know it, they do not really want to spend time with either parent. The creation of special memories is what life is about and finding peace is the key to that.

If you or someone you know is affected by the issues raised in this blog post, we can provide you with expert legal advice. For more information, please get in touch with our specialist team at hello@mcalisterfamilylaw.co.uk

A loving home – best Christmas present ever

Posted on 6th December 2023 by McAlister Family Law

A loving home – best Christmas present ever

One year ago, John Lewis’ Christmas advert aimed to shine a light on the importance of foster carers, yet new figures from OFSTED have shown a loss of foster care families and an increase in children being placed far from home. Here, Nick Hodson looks at the situation and how The Department of Education plans to turn it around.

Let me take you back 12 months to the 2022 John Lewis Christmas advert. In it, a middle-aged man is on a mission to learn how to skateboard. He spends weeks trying to master this difficult skill and suffers some bumps and bruises along the way. It is revealed at the end of the advert what his hard work was all about. Along with his partner, he was expecting the arrival of a foster child, Ellie, who loves to skateboard. Ellie was nervous at first about the new house but softens when she spots the carer’s skateboard and poorly arm. His hard work was designed to make Ellie feel comfortable in her new home.

This week, new figures from OFSTED, have shown that there has been a net loss of 1,000 foster care families in the past year and a record number of children being placed far from home. Social workers have described scrambling to find friends and family to take children in urgent need of safety and reported that children are sometimes placed in hotels.

It is estimated that 6,000 new foster families will be needed to meet rising demand.

“We need a lot more foster carers,” said John Pearce, the president of the Association of Directors of Children’s Services. “You used to be able to get a place quickly for younger children. But in significant parts of the country that’s not the case anymore, and that’s driven by a significant increase in the children coming into care.”

In some cases, councils lacking local foster vacancies are sending children hundreds of miles away, breaking family and school ties. There has been a 7% increase in the number of children in care since 2019 in England. But in the past year almost twice as many households quit mainstream fostering than joined. Reasons cited include the rising cost of looking after children and older foster parents choosing to quit after the pandemic.

The Department of Education is launching a £27m recruitment and retention programme, which began in September in the north-east, where demand has soared, and will spread to more than half of England’s local authorities from next April.

One of the joys of representing children is seeing the impact of a positive foster placement on the child’s wellbeing. It can provide them with the safety, stability, and love that they might been deprived of by their birth families. For older children, it can give them the best platform to enter adulthood.

Let us hope that the new campaign will bring the thousands of new families into the fostering system and that many more children like Ellie can live in safe and loving homes.

What is co-parenting and how does it work?

Posted on 27th November 2023 by McAlister Family Law

What is co-parenting and how does it work?

If you have recently separated from your partner and trying to navigate the arrangements for your child(ren) you might have heard the word “co-parenting” and wondered what it means. Here, Melissa Jones, Senior Associate at McAlister Family Law, looks at the term and how it applies it practice.

What is co-parenting?

Cafcass, the advisory service to the court, describe co-parenting as “‘Co-parent’ is a shortened version of ‘co-operative parent’, and co-operation is essential to making things work well for children”.

A few examples of co-parenting are:

Using positive language about the other parent.
Avoid using the term ‘my child’ and instead use ‘our child/children’
Sharing information about your child with the other parent
Avoid involving the children in adult issues that do not concern them or using the children as a ‘go-between’

It is always worth remembering that despite however much we plan for something, things might not work out in the way we want them. Expect a few bumps along the way, as you and the other parent get used to sharing the responsibility for the children.

Can co-parenting really work?

Co-parenting is something that needs time to embed but there is no reason why it cannot work for families.

Take former England Rugby player Ben Foden and his former partner, Una Healey from the Saturdays for example. They have two children aged 11 and 8 and Mr Foden lives in New York with his wife and their own child. Una has recently said the following about co-parenting: “I’m really happy for them that they have summers in New York and that they’re making lovely memories with their dad, stepmother and sister,” and “Our dynamic is probably different to many people’s, but there are lots of people who have families where the parents aren’t together any more. You just manage it as best you can.”

Parenting Apps

The court is especially keen on separated parents using co-parenting apps to assist with their communication and making decisions. In some cases, the use of these apps might help you avoid court all together and they you share calendars and send secure communication.

There are a number of co-parenting apps such as:

Our Family Wizard
2 houses
Talking Parents

Civil, clear and positive communication between is key for co- [parenting to work. Using an app will often give parents less to worry about and in some cases the apps and they can be inexpensive when considered the cost of going to court.

When might co-parenting not work?

There may however be cases where co-parenting cannot work and in particular where there have been findings made relating to domestic abuse or there is an injunction in place which means it would not be appropriate for parents to be in communication with one another. In these cases, other provisions will need to be considered by the parties in terms of a parent being updated about a child and the court might encourage the use of a third party, for example.

The Russell Brand Scandal: Does the UK need to alter the age of consent?

Posted on 19th October 2023 by McAlister Family Law

The Russell Brand Scandal: Does the UK need to alter the age of consent?

In light of Channel 4’s recently aired ‘Dispatches’ documentary which saw a number of women make allegations against Russel Brand, there are calls from the public to amend the age of consent in the UK. Here, McAlister Family Law’s Eleanor Drury explores at what a change in the law may look like.

Channel 4’s ‘Dispatches’ documentary, saw a number of women make allegations of rape, sexual assault and emotional abuse against comedian and online personality Russell Brand, including one allegation from a woman going by the name of Alice, who discloses that she first engaged in a sexual relationship with Brand aged just 16 whilst he was in his 30’s, there are calls from the public to amend the age of consent in the UK in order to protect teenagers from engaging in unhealthy and potentially dangerous relationships with older individuals.

At present, the legal age of consent in the UK is 16. This was introduced by virtue of the Criminal Law Amendment Act 1885, to decriminalise 16 year olds who chose to engage in a sexual relationship with their peers. Despite English Law viewing anybody aged under 18 as a child, the law surrounding consent does not reflect this nor mirror the lack of autonomy given to 16 year olds in other areas such as the legal drinking, marriage, or voting age. Perhaps legislators failed to anticipate that the current law would allow for situations whereby children are able to consent to sex with adults double their age, where there is undoubtedly huge differences in status and significant power imbalances.

In the documentary, ‘Alice’ describes how Russell Brand would send cars to collect her from school and take her to his home where the pair would have sex. She claims that he became increasingly controlling, encouraging her to lie to her family and friends about their relationship and even sexually assaulted her by removing a condom without her knowledge. Research indicates that 16% of teenage girls with older boyfriends experience severe physical violence, compared to 6% of girls in a relationship with a partner of the same age. Naturally teenagers, by virtue of their age, are vulnerable and more likely to be targeted and manipulated by older individuals.

Any amendments to the law would need to be considered on a practical basis. Whilst some people are calling for it to be made illegal for anyone older than 21 to have sex with those aged between 16-18, this is arguably too restrictive and would create situations whereby a 20 year old could have a legal relationship one day, then the following day turn 21 and be open to punishment from the law. Perhaps a more workable solution would be to implement barriers within the law whereby 16 & 17 year olds can only consent to sex with somebody who is within 5 years of their age.

Age of consent varies around the world with some countries such as India, Turkey and Uganda setting 18 as the age in which a person can legally consent. In South Korea and Nepal, the age of consent is even higher; set at 20.

Whilst it is important to note that the age of consent across the world varies to reflect the traditions, religion, culture, and history of a particular country, it certainly interesting to consider if, and how, the UK might decide to vary legislation, particularly as the ‘Me Too’ movement continues to gain momentum.

A three minute marriage – How soon can I get divorced?

Posted on 12th October 2023 by McAlister Family Law

A three minute marriage – How soon can I get divorced?

Rumours are circulating online about a couple in Kuwait who were married for a grand total of three minutes. Here, McAlister Family Law’s Heather Lucy looks at how this can happen and whether it would be legally possible in England and Wales.

A three-minute marriage? How is that possible? Apparently, the couple were married in front of a judge and, when they were leaving the courtroom, the bride stumbled. Instead of helping her, the groom mocked her, and the (rightfully?) angry bride asked the court to immediately bring their marriage to an end. The judge agreed and their marriage was dissolved. This may be an urban legend being spread on the internet, but it does pose the question of whether it would be possible to do the same in England and Wales.

In England and Wales, it is not possible to make an application for divorce until you have been married for 12 months. You then have to wait a further 20 weeks from when the court issues your application to become eligible for a conditional order which is the next step in bringing your marriage to an end. This cooling off period may feel unnecessary if you separated less than a year into your marriage but it is almost impossible to dispense with it.

The conditional order is a key step in your divorce. It means that the court are satisfied that you and your partner can be divorced (and you are able to apply for the final order 6 weeks and a day later), and it allows them to make orders about financial matters. This is often a key concern for people who are separating, and they are keen to have the certainty of a final order in place.

If you split up with your partner before a year has passed, then either one of you (or both of you together) might choose to apply to the court for a judicial separation order. These orders are also sometimes sought by people who may not want to divorce for religious reasons but who do want to separate.

It is key to note that a judicial separation order is different to a divorce. One important point is that being judicially separated does not mean that you are legally single and therefore you cannot remarry. Further, a divorce will impact any pre-existing wills and is relevant to the order of inheritance under intestacy laws, but you are still married if you are judicially separated so you will need to think carefully about reviewing your will.

If you judicially separate from your partner, you can apply to the court for a financial order. The range of powers open to the court differs from those available under divorce. The court cannot make a Pension Sharing Order if you are judicially separated and there can be no ‘clean break’ in respect of your finances. You can record that you and your partner intend to get divorced after a year has elapsed and that there should be a clean break order then, but this is not binding.

If you have been married for less than a year and want to legally separate from your partner, then it would be sensible to speak to a specialist family lawyer who can discuss your individual circumstances with you and set out your options moving forward.

Molly Mae and Tommy Fury get engaged – but what if they broke up?

Posted on 5th October 2023 by McAlister Family Law

Molly Mae and Tommy Fury get engaged – but what if they broke up?

Former Love Island contestants, Molly-Mae Hague and Tommy Fury have recently announced their engagement. The pair met on Love Island in 2019 and have been going strong ever since. But what happens if they break up? Here, Weronika Husejko looks at what a separation looks like legally, and what would happen with their daughter Bambi.

As many will know from their Instagram accounts, they have lived together for some time now, pretty much since their exit from Love Island in 2019. They also had their first child together at the beginning of this year, a baby girl called Bambi.

Whilst the happy couple are probably making wedding plans for their big day as we speak, you may wonder- what would happen if they broke up before they tied the knot?

The rules that apply to engaged couples are generally the same as those which apply to cohabiting couples upon separation. This means that they could not make a financial remedy claim under the same legislation that married couples usually would, that being the Matrimonial Causes Act 1973.

TOLATA

In terms of any property that the pair own together, any disputes in relation to this would be treated as a “ToLATA” claim. This is because the Trusts of Land and Appointment of Trustees Act 1996 is the legislation which deals with disputes relating to the ownership of property or land.

In a situation where the property was purchased by both of them and it is clear from the title deeds how the property is held, there is less scope for dispute. However, if one of their names are not on the title deeds, it can become more complicated and will depend upon a number of facts.

Schedule 1

As the pair also have a child, Bambi, they may also be able to make an application under Schedule 1 of the Children Act 1989.

This legislation allows separated parents to apply for various orders for the benefit of the child. This type of application is usually made by the parent with whom the child lives- so say if Bambi lived with Molly-Mae, she may apply for various orders under Schedule 1, depending on their respective financial circumstances of course.

Molly-Mae may be able to apply for the following orders on behalf of their daughter:-

Periodical payments
Secured periodical payments
Lump sum
Settlement of property
Transfer of property

Other avenues

There are actually some other pieces of legislation which provide engaged/ formerly engaged couples with certain rights. One example is that a fiancé may be able to claim a beneficial interest in property owned by their former fiancé albeit this would only apply in limited circumstances e.g., if the non-owning fiancé had made a contribution to substantially improving the property.

In summary, Molly-Mae and Tommy have various legal avenues they may be able to pursue if they did split during their engagement however, they would be very much dependent upon their individual financial circumstances.

Joe Jonas and Sophie Turner – What happens when parents disagree?

Posted on 25th September 202325th September 2023 by McAlister Family Law

Joe Jonas and Sophie Turner – What happens when parents disagree?

Joe Jonas and Sophie Turner locked in relocation battle over their children. Here, McAlister Family Law Solicitor Nicola Bradley looks at what happens when parents disagree on which country their children should live in?

Game of Thrones star, Sophie Turner, and her pop-star husband, Joe Jonas, are currently going through a very public and increasingly acrimonious divorce. To add to their troubles, the pair are now engaged in a very heated court battle over the arrangements for their one year old and three year old daughters. It has been widely reported that Turner and Jonas cannot agree on where the children will live; Turner allegedly claims that Jonas has “abducted” the girls and is wrongfully retaining them in America, whilst a representative for Jonas has hit back with claims that the use of the word “abduction” is a serious abuse of the legal system and entirely misleading in the circumstances.

It can often be very difficult for parents to navigate the arrangements for children when a marriage or relationship comes to an end, but these problems are magnified when the dispute is over which country the children should live in.

In the first instance, parents should always try to sit down and talk this issue through in the hope that an agreement can be reached. In Turner and Jonas’ case, Turner argues that the pair had already agreed that the children would reside in the UK and that Jonas has since resiled from this by keeping the children in America and refusing to hand over their passports.

In circumstances where an agreement has broken down or where you cannot reach agreement, the parent wishing to relocate will need to apply for a Court Order allowing them to do so and permitting them to take the children with them. When making this decision, the paramount consideration of the Court will be the welfare of the children and whether a relocation would be in their best interests. When making this decision, the Court will have mind to a number of factors including but not limited to:-

the motivation of the parent making the application
whether the practical proposals have been well researched and investigated
The reasons for the other parent’s opposition to the relocation
The effect granting or not granting relocation would have on the children’s relationship with either their parents and their respective families

The Court will also take into the children’s wishes and feelings, so far as they can be ascertained. The older a child is, the more weight and emphasis will be placed on what they want to do and what they feel is right for them.

It is important to remember that neither parent can make a unilateral decision to take the children to another country. If one parent takes the children out of the jurisdiction without the expressed permission of the other parent, this amounts to abduction and emergency orders can be obtained for the summary return of the children to this country. Similarly, if you are concerned that the children are at risk of being taken out of the jurisdiction by the other parent, emergency orders can be sought to prevent this from happening.

Dealing with allegations of child abuse in the Family Court

Posted on 24th August 2023 by McAlister Family Law

Dealing with allegations of child abuse in the Family Court

Here, McAlister Family Law Senior Associate, Melissa Jones, looks at a story making headlines; Titanic Actor, Ioan Gruffudd has made allegations against his children’s mother, Alice Evan, and has labelled her a “child abuser” in court documents issued in Los Angeles.

The allegations in the court documents state: “Alice has continued to inflict serious emotional harm on Ella and Elsie by her statements and by interfering in my relationship with them’ and ‘Alice has verbally abused and undermined me in front of the girls throughout their lives.’

In this case there is an allegation that the father is being alienated from his children as a direct result of the other parent’s influence over the children.

What is Parental Alienation?

There is no definition in family law but Cafcass have provided helpful guidance. Cafcass use it “to describe circumstances where there is an ongoing pattern of negative attitudes, beliefs and behaviours of one parent (or carer) that have the potential or expressed intent to undermine or obstruct the child’s relationship with the other parent. It is one of a number of reasons why a child may reject or resist spending time with one parent post-separation”.

Below are some examples of parental alienation, which covers a variety of behaviours in the child, such as:

fear, hostility, or disrespect towards the distant parent
the child constantly criticising the alienated parent, with no strong evidence or justifications for doing so
the child having overwhelmingly negative feelings towards the alienated parent – in the sense that these feelings are not ‘mixed’
the child having unwavering support of the alienator
the child using terms and phrases that seem to be borrowed from adult language
the child does not feel guilty about mistreating or hating the alienated parent

How does the Court deal with allegations of alienation?

This of course a case in USA, but we will take a look at what the court would do if such allegations were made in a court in England and Wales.

The law, as it stands, presumes that it is in the children’s best interests for each parent, even when they have separated, to continue to be involved in the lives of any and all of their children, unless such involvement may subject them to a risk of harm.

But is it child abuse?

The Chief Executive of CAFCASS describes parental alienation as “undoubtedly a form of neglect or child abuse”.

Allegations of parental alienation should be taken seriously. It is commonly recognised that exposing children to alienating behaviours can be emotionally harmful to them. The overriding view is that it is in the child’s best interests to have an ongoing relationship with both parents. At the heart of every decision made by the Family Court is what course of action is in the best interests of the child.

Another twist in the Gruffudd and Evans case is that their daughter, aged 13, filed a restraining order against her father. Mr Gruffudd has blamed this application on Ms Evans and has also claimed that she has prevented the children from attending counselling.

Ms Evan’s has denied the allegation and stated in court papers that Mr Gruffudd ‘has not seen, complied with, nor called the children for 11 weeks’.

Interestingly, Ms Evans stands opposed to her and the children being subject to such court proceedings if such evaluation is based on speculation and suspicions.

Clearly this looks set to be a heavily disputed set of proceedings in which both parties will need put their case to the court.

Sadly, as can often be the case with child arrangement disputes, the children can get be caught in the middle; in this case they might know a lot more about these proceedings because of their famous parents and the fact that this is playing out in public.

If you are experiencing any of the above, then it is important you instruct a lawyer who is a specialist in such matters. It could be the case that your child holds strong views of their own but may have been coached into believing other views. This would need careful exploration in the family court, and it is important that time is not lost in the process, so early advice is recommended.