Breach of child arrangements order – What are my options?

Posted on 4th May 2023 by McAlister Family Law

Breach of child arrangements order – What are my options?

Navigating decisions about arrangements for the children, house rules and holidays can be a very difficult task for separated parents. In cases where an impasse is irreconcilable, it may be necessary to secure a Child Arrangements Order to clarify matters and enable the parties to move on with their lives. Here, Agata Napora looks at the consequences if Court Orders aren’t followed.

Initial Steps

A constant breach can be very upsetting and cause a lot of uncertainty for the other parent and the child concerned which is far from desirable and should be handled with care. In first instance we would recommend that you always try to address all the issues direct as this may help break the ice between you and help resolve matters without the need of engaging a solicitor or taking your case back Court. However, should this approach be unsuccessful, the next step would be to contact a solicitor with a view to writing to the other party and reminding them of their obligation to comply with the Order and the legal ramifications if they continue to breach it.

A Child Arrangements Order has a “Warning Notice” attached to it which informs the parties about the consequences of failure to abide by the terms of the Order. From a legal standpoint, a breach of a Court Order is a serious affair as it constitutes a contempt of Court, and this may lead to sanctions being made against the non-compliant parent.

If correspondence from a solicitor does not achieve the desired effect and the other parent continues to act contrary to the terms of the Order, then you may need to consider applying to the Court for enforcement.

What Constitutes a Breach of an Order

When a Child Arrangements Order is already in place almost anything can amount to a breach including a lateness to the handover or a cancellation of contact due to an illness, or a prior work commitment. Whilst a one-off incident of this nature is unlikely to be enough for the Court to order a sanction against the other party, a series of minor breaches may have a profound impact on the welfare of the child and the Court will therefore take a closer look at the overall situation. It is therefore advisable to keep a record of all the instances and the frequency of the said breaches so that the Court can benefit from a full picture and is able to investigate the issues accordingly.

What the Court looks for in enforcement applications

The Court will determine the nature of the breach and look at the reasons behind the other parent’s non-compliance. The Judge will be interested in knowing as to whether there is a plausible explanation behind the other parent’s conduct or perhaps no valid justification at all. The Court will assess the effect of the breach on the child’s welfare and whether it would be in the child’s best interests for the order to be enforced. Every case is different, and in some circumstances, the Court may wish to obtain expert advice or a CAFCASS report or make a referral to social services to investigate matters in more detail before making a final determination.

How to make Enforcement application

An application to enforce a court order is made on a specific enforcement application form C79. There is also a Court fee payable of £232 unless you qualify for a fee remission. We would recommend that you seek legal advice on how to complete the form to ensure that your application is successful.

Enforcement and Sanctions

In deciding whether to enforce the Order, the Court must satisfy itself beyond reasonable doubt that such action is necessary and proportionate to the seriousness and frequency of the parent committing the breach and that the Enforcement Order is required to secure compliance with the Order. If the breach turns out to be minor or the parent in breach of the Order actively shows remorse and perhaps undertakes to the Court not to repeat the said misconduct, the Court is likely to consider that Enforcement Order is not necessary. Furthermore, if a parent in breach of the Order can show on balance of probabilities that they had a reasonable excuse for failing to comply with the order, then it an Enforcement Order will not be granted.

Whilst some parties may be referred to a separated parents information program (SPIP) or mediation to resolve their disputes, others could be ordered to pay a fine, undertake unpaid work or be committed to prison. It may also be possible for one parent to seek a compensation for financial loss suffered by reason of the breach.

Who pays costs of enforcement proceedings

The standard rule on costs in children proceedings is that there should be no order for costs. This approach however does not apply to applications for enforcement orders meaning that the applicant party have the right to seek costs against the respondent party and the Court has a discretion to order the unsuccessful party to pay the reasonable legal costs of the other side.

If you are considering applying to the Court for enforcement of the existing Child Arrangements Order, we would highly recommend that you seek specialist assistance.

If you need advice on this topic, or any other matters concerning divorce or family law, please get in touch with our team at McAlister Family Law.

The rise in domestic abuse cases against pregnant women: What can victims do to protect themselves and their unborn child?

Posted on 6th April 2023 by McAlister Family Law

The rise in domestic abuse cases against pregnant women: What can victims do to protect themselves and their unborn child?

Pregnancies can be a joyous occasion, with both prospective parents doing everything to ensure that their developing baby is born into a loving family, have a good upbringing and grow into a well-adjusted adult. However, the Domestic Abuse Report 2022 and annual audits paint a very different and concerning picture. Here, Ruth Hetherington looks at the stark reality of domestic abuse against pregnant women.

The stark reality of domestic abuse against pregnant women

It is reported that 20-30% of pregnant women report incidents of physical violence, 14% reporting severe or life-threatening violence. Around 36% of women experience verbal abuse during pregnancy and the statistics also reveal that 20% of pregnant women report sexual violence.

These reports are shocking and give stark clarity to the extent of domestic abuse in pregnancy, which shows no regard by abusers as to their partner but more importantly the baby. There is a distinct lack of understanding of domestic abuse generally, but particularly the impact and effect on an unborn child cannot be dismissed or ignored.

The key findings of the Audit Report Year 2020-2021 show that most women accessing domestic abuse support services have children, and 7.3% of women seeking support services are pregnant women in refugees.

The physical risks to pregnant women are significant, with injuries reported to be sustained to the head, neck, broken bones, and punches to the stomach. Much of this information would be repugnant to many, but it can form a pattern of coercive control behaviours, which can escalate when pregnant. It creates a dependency and a sense of hopelessness, which means women are left in a vulnerable state, with nowhere to turn, particularly if they lack the strength to be able to leave.

The impact on the child

Babies that grow up within an environment where domestic abuse is a factor will be negatively impacted. It must be a scary environment for any child to witness and grow up in such circumstances, but babies are just as affected as any other child, given their vulnerability in lack of mobility or verbal comprehension.

Children do and can develop maladaptive coping strategies which can put themselves at risk as they feel a responsibility for their parent who is suffering from such abuse. This feeling of responsibility is often heightened when their mother is pregnant. Children can be supported by domestic abuse services, however, these services are limited, depending on the area where you live.

The unfortunate reality of abuse and what victims can do to protect themselves and their children

Unfortunately, women who are unable to break free from their abuser can often be blamed by professionals with allegations of failing to protect their unborn child, which can lead to the possibility of having their child removed at birth.

This does not seem fair or just. It takes incredible strength to leave an abusive relationship, especially when there is a developed dependency and pregnancy. Feelings of being trapped, being alone and nowhere to turn to are common.

There needs to be a real focus on situations of this nature to help vulnerable women but more so children, who can suffer in in such circumstances by getting hurt physically and suffering psychologically and emotionally. If you or anyone close to you are suffering any form of domestic abuse the Government have produced a helpful guide which provides useful telephone numbers.

McAlister Family Law helps, advises and supports those suffering any form of abuse, whether that be physical abuse or coercive control, and our specialist Children team can guide you through ways in which to protect yourself and your children.

If you need advice on this topic, or any other matters concerning divorce or family law, please get in touch with our team at McAlister Family Law.

Child Maintenance and Domestic Abuse – New measures to assist survivors of domestic abuse

Posted on 2nd March 2023 by McAlister Family Law

Child Maintenance and Domestic Abuse – New measures to assist survivors of domestic abuse

New laws will soon be introduced to protect victims of domestic abuse from having to deal with the other parent, if they are the perpetrator of the abuse, in regard to child maintenance applications. Here, Melissa Jones, Senior Associate, looks at what this means for domestic abuse victims and how the Child Maintenance Service is going to support them.

It’s not physical violence, is it Domestic Abuse?

Domestic abuse is when someone close to you, often a partner or spouse causes you physical, sexual, financial or emotional hardship. It is a misconception that in order for you to be categorized as being in an abusive relationship, there must be physical violence. In many cases there is no physical violence; instead, there is psychological and emotional abuse.

Domestic violence can take many forms. Other than physical violence and threats of violence, you may feel intimidated by things that are said to you, or the manner in which you are treated. You may feel controlled and prevented from spending time with friends and family. Abuse can be verbal; you may feel belittled by your partner at home or in front of others.

In addition to the above, you might feel anxious about claiming child maintenance from the other parent, if they have been abusive towards you, because they might use a child maintenance application as a way to further contact you, harass your, intimidate you or as a way of exerting financial control.

What is Child Maintenance? Can I claim this?

All parents have a responsibility to provide financially for their child even if they live apart from the child and the other parent. Child maintenance can make a significant difference to a child’s wellbeing and the quality of family relationships. Child maintenance is the regular, reliable financial support parents provide for their child when they separate. It can help towards a child’s everyday living costs and give them the best start in life.

Child maintenance can be agreed voluntarily between parents. If an agreement cannot be reached, then an application can be made to the Child Maintenance Service (CMS) – a government body that assesses one parent’s financial means and can make a mandatory requirement that he or she pays child maintenance to the other.

The amount of child maintenance that will need to be paid will depend on a number of factors. For further information visit the Government website.

How will the Child Maintenance Service help me?

Under the new measures soon to be introduced, the CMS will:

Give you the choice, as a survivor of domestic abuse, to allow the CMS to collect Child Maintenance and make payments on your behalf. This would be without the consent of the abusive ex-partner.
Be given powers to report suspected cases of financial coercion to the Crown Protection Service.

Senior Associate, Melissa Jones comments “this is a very helpful and proactive step in tackling domestic abuse and practically assisting survivors of domestic abuse. Sadly, help for a victim is not only needed when they are still with perpetrator but long after too, and with Child Maintenance claims, protection might still be needed after the relationship has ended to prevent further emotional and financial control. The new measures are much needed, and will no doubt help a number of domestic abuse survivors in difficult times and adds an extra layer of protection as they move on with their lives.”

If you believe you are, or someone you know is suffering from domestic abuse, then there are ways to help you, and them. At McAlister Family Law we can help victims of domestic abuse by advising them on the most appropriate course of action in their particular situation,

If you are anxious about claiming child maintenance, want to learn more about your rights pet and want some advice, then contact our team of family experts who can advise you further.

If you need advice on this topic, or any other matters concerning divorce or family law, please get in touch with our team at McAlister Family Law.

Sources

https://www.familylawweek.co.uk/site.aspx?i=ed235424

I didn’t know I had a child – What are my legal rights?

Posted on 23rd February 2023 by McAlister Family Law

I didn’t know I had a child – What are my legal rights?

If you have only just found out that you and your ex-partner have a child together, which you did not know about, you might find yourself asking ‘what are my legal rights?’. Here, Weronika Husejko looks at parental responsibility, contact and what the court may consider.

Most parents have what is called ‘parental responsibility’. Parental responsibility is defined as all of the rights, duties, powers, responsibilities and authorities which by law a parent of a child has in relation to the child and the child’s property. This includes housing the child, maintaining them, and making decisions such as which school the child goes to, or whether they receive certain medical treatment.

Parental responsibility is automatically acquired by a mother by way of giving birth to the child.

The father on the other hand can acquire parental responsibility by one of four ways: –

Being married to the child’s mother
Being named on the child’s birth certificate
By the mother agreeing for the father to have parental responsibility
By applying to the Court for parental responsibility

If you did not know that you were the child’s father, the likelihood may be that you do not have parental responsibility of your child. If the mother or other parent with parental responsibility agrees for you to have parental responsibility, you can complete a Parental Responsibility Agreement. However, if the mother or other parent with parental responsibility do not agree, you can apply to the Court for parental responsibility. If granted by the Court, it will provide you with certain legal rights and responsibilities in relation to the child as mentioned above. Even if you do not have parental responsibility, you may be able to have contact with the child. If the other parent does not agree for you to spend time with the child, there are various options available to you. You have the right to apply to the Court for a Child Arrangements Order as a parent of the child regardless of whether you have parental responsibility.

A Child Arrangements Order regulates who and when the child is to live with, spend time with and have any other contact with. So, for example, you wish to apply to the Court for an Order that you spend time with the child on specific days.

When the Court considers this type of application, the child’s welfare will be their paramount consideration. They must have regard to the ‘welfare checklist’ which is set out by Section 1 of the Children Act 1989. This includes things such as the wishes and feelings of the child and their physical, emotional and educational needs.

You may not necessarily have to go to Court if contact with your child cannot be agreed with the mother. Mediation is a useful option in certain circumstances. There is a requirement to attend a Mediation Information and Assessment Meeting (MIAM) before making a Court application in any event.

If an agreement is reached for contact either directly between yourselves or via a mediator, you can put together a parenting plan. This is not enforceable by the Court however it can be very useful for parents to use it as a basis for their child arrangements.

We can provide you with specific advice as to what your rights and options are as a father. Get in touch with our specialist children team.

If you need advice on this topic, or any other matters concerning divorce or family law, please get in touch with our team at McAlister Family Law.

Grimes, X Æ A-Xii and not identifying as ‘mum’ – do right and wrong parenting styles exist?

Posted on 16th February 202316th February 2023 by McAlister Family Law

Grimes, X Æ A-Xii and not identifying as ‘mum’ – Do right and wrong parenting styles exist?

The futuristic pop star, Grimes, and her equally eccentric, billionaire boyfriend, Elon Musk, are one of the most famous pairings in the world for many reasons. One of which, is their unique parenting style. Here, Nikki Bradley looks at how Grimes and Musk coparent their children and discusses why it’s okay to break the parenting ‘norms’.

She has been described as the visionary inventor of “space opera” and he as a genius supervillain. We don’t quite understand them or the nature of their relationship and despite reports they are no longer together, Grimes herself has described their relationship status in the past as “very fluid”. Our curiosity for the pair only grew when their first child together, X Æ A-Xii, was born in May 2020. The pair have since welcomed their second child, Exa Dark Sideræl Musk, born in January 2022.

A quick google of “Grimes and Elon Musk” shows the top results that follow are “baby name”, “baby”, “kids”. The otherworldly names of their children and the manner of their parenting is striking. Their children are being raised differently and the world wants to know more.

“Maybe he can sense my distaste for the word ‘mother’… I can’t identify with it”

Grimes has spoken openly about motherhood and parenting, including her decision to live apart from Elon Musk despite being romantically attached and raising two children together. Although their non-conventional parenting style does not come as surprising, one of the most shocking revelations came when Grimes revealed to Vogue that her son calls her by her real name, Claire.

She went on to explain that whilst she respects the title “mum”, it is not a term she identifies with, and she believes her son can sense her distaste for it.

“I love playing devil’s advocate, questioning my beliefs, making hard pivots”

By her own above admission, Grimes thrives off being an unconventional boundary pusher. However, when it comes to parenting and children, quirky attitudes and behaviours scare people. We may regard the age we live in as progressive, but society’s view of parenting remains incredibly conservative.

Grimes is right to challenge this.

The world thinks she and Elon Musk are weird because their style and approach to co-parenting does not fit society’s definition of “normal”.

There is no “normal” when it comes to parenting, nor is there a “perfect” way to raise your child. Children need love, protection and nurturing and a happy child will be raised in a household that keeps them safe and emotionally secure.

First time parents in particular often feel an overwhelming pressure to do things “right”. You are doing it “right” as long as you are meeting your child’s needs and acting in their best interests. The road you take to achieve that is up to you entirely.

Breaking the mould

Being a parent is not about trying to make the rest of the world happy or doing what other people tell you is correct. Being a parent is about doing right by your child and nobody else but you knows how best to do this. If you try and fit another person’s parenting mould it will feel uncomfortable, and your child will sense it. You do not want to end up a square peg in a round hole.

Do not be afraid to choose your own parenting path. Even if you are in a committed relationship with your co-parent, it may be that the “apartners” approach (committed romantically but living apart) as favoured by Grimes, is right for you and your children. It may not be a conventional but if you and your children are happy, nothing else matters.

If you need advice on this topic, or any other matters concerning divorce or family law, please get in touch with our team at McAlister Family Law.

How to cope with long-distance parenting

Posted on 2nd February 2023 by McAlister Family Law

How to cope with long-distance parenting

In an increasingly mobile world following the Covid-19 pandemic, where more of us than ever are moving out of cities as we work from home or in a hybrid fashion, how does this impact parents who live a significant distance away from the other parent? Here, Michael Compston looks at how long-distance parenting can work though direct and indirect contact, and how the school holidays can be your friend.

During the Covid-19 pandemic, nearly half[1] of all adults were working from home at least some of the time, and 8 out of 10 adults indicate that they want to work from home in a hybrid manner moving forward.

This has led to an exodus of city dwellers as families look for more space and greener living, now that they are not as constrained by the 9-5 office job that they once were.

This will likely lead to an increase in children being relocated and, ultimately, more instances where there is a significant distance between both parents. Children can only attend one school, so how can parents agree arrangements that work for the child/ren?

The reality is that, whilst both parents will have involvement in the child’s life, the child will have one ‘home’ such that the child lives with one parent and spends time with another.

Perhaps even more so than under other circumstances, communication between the parents is vital. The parent with whom the child lives must ensure that the child’s relationship with the other parent is protected and given the chance to develop even with the distances between the parents. There are several ways that this can be done:

Direct contact

Whatever the distance, we will all travel for our children. If you find yourself in a situation where you’re the parent that lives a significant distance away from your child, any time you get with your child will be precious. It will not be suitable, for example, to return the child to school on Monday given the distances involved. Instead, think about maximising your time with the child; if you can work flexibly on a Friday to arrive at school for collection, that means nearly a full weekend can be enjoyed by all.

Whilst the child lives in only one home, it is important that they understand their other parent has a home of their own. Contact should be encouraged to take place at the address of the parent with whom the child does not live, where possible.

This might not be possible during term-time if the parties live a very long way from each other, such that the journey time is greater than 6 hours.

Indirect contact

Modern technology allows us to keep up to date like our parents could not have dreamed of 30 years ago. Instant communication is possible through FaceTime and WhatsApp video calls, which is crucial to maintaining relationships over long distances.

These calls should be private; if you are the parent with whom the child lives, it is important to respect the relationship between the child and the other parent and to not intrude unnecessarily unless you have concerns about the content of the calls.

Regular video calls can be a useful tool in maintaining relationships over long distances.

School Holidays

The school holidays afford a prime opportunity for the parent with whom the child does not live to have some real, quality time with that parent. The holidays can be shared equally or perhaps even in favour of the non-resident parent to account for the disparity in contact during term-time.

Religious festivals can also be shared. Schools close for two weeks at Christmas and Easter generally, and also have provisions in place for other religious festivals such as Eid and Yom Kippur.

If you need advice on this topic, or any other matters concerning divorce or family law, please get in touch with our team at McAlister Family Law.

[1] https://www.ons.gov.uk/employmentandlabourmarket/peopleinwork/employmentandemployeetypes/articles/ishybridworkingheretostay/2022-05-23

Online sex abuse of primary school children increases over 1000% since pandemic – How far will the Online Safety Bill protect them?

Posted on 31st January 2023 by McAlister Family Law

Online sex abuse of primary school children increases over 1000% since pandemic – How far will the Online Safety Bill protect them?

It is a shocking and deeply sad fact that thousands of children ranging from new-borns to teenagers are targeted and subjected to horrific sexual abuse every day in this country. Here, Solicitor Nikki Bradley looks at the dangers children are being exposed to online and how the Online Safety Bill may make a difference.

Online forums and social media platforms are saturated with child sexual predators. Many of these people “catfish” their victims by hiding behind pseudonyms and falsifying information about their lives including their ages, backgrounds, appearance and gender. This is all done in the hope of maximising their chances of abusing vulnerable children which, as a result of the pandemic and increased popularity of remote platforms and social media technology, has caused online child sex abuse to skyrocket.

The Internet Watch Foundation (IWF) are a charity whose sole aim is to eliminate online sex abuse of children by finding and removing all traces of this material. On 27^th January 2023, IWF published stark and harrowing findings. Their research shows that since 2019 the number of sex abuse images of children aged 7-10 distributed online has increased by 1,058%.

Do we really know what dangers children are being exposed to online?

Our reliance on the digital world seems to have become normal post pandemic. Many primary school children now have iPads, smart phones, social media accounts but no matter how well we think we are policing it, the IWF statistics speak for themselves.

Online child abuse is not just still happening, it is thriving. Online predators are merciless and are taking full advantage of the fact that children are now regularly using digital platforms to assist their development socially and educationally. In 2022 the IWF found 63,050 reports of children aged 7-10 being tricked and coerced into performing sexual acts on camera, 14% of which were classed as Category A material – the very worst category of abuse.

Will the Online Safety Bill make a difference?

The purpose of the Online Safety Bill is to protect children (and adults) from online abuse by making social media companies legally responsible for their safety and increasing accountability for their online content and procedures. It proposes to do this by means such as enforcing age limits, rapidly removing and preventing illegal content for appearing, providing children with clear ways to report online problems and ensuring online risks on the biggest social media platforms are more transparent.

Progress of the Bill through Parliament has recently stalled following a rebellion of more than 50 MPs seeking an amendment introducing a two-year criminal sentence for tech bosses that fail to protect children viewing inappropriate online content. The Culture Secretary has described the criminal liability factor as giving the Bill “additional teeth”. It has since had the final approval of MPs and will now progress through the House of Lords before becoming law.

Final thoughts

It is hoped that this Bill will make a real difference to child online safety. The world appears to be live to the risks children face online and the UK is taking action to protect young people. However, the dangers of the internet extend far beyond TikTok and Instagram which comprise merely the surface of the digital world as we know it.

Whilst the Bill certainly appears a strong move in the right direction to keeping children safe from harm, it will not affect the vast expanse of the dark web which will continue to shield and anonymise thousands of online predators whilst also distributing their harmful content. Much more thought needs to be given as to how we can tackle the abuse of children in the “hidden” internet and how we can better police under the surface child sex abuse activity.

If you need advice on this topic, or any other matters concerning divorce or family law, please get in touch with our team at McAlister Family Law.

Maya Jama receives legal letter demanding £800,000 ring back

Posted on 26th January 2023 by McAlister Family Law

Maya Jama receives legal letter demanding £800,000 ring back

Maya Jama receives legal letter demanding the return of £800,000 engagement ring to ex-fiancé Ben Simmons. Here, Lisa Brown looks at what happens to the ring if an engagement is called off.

The new Love Island host and basketball player ended their relationship last summer after Ben’s proposal to Maya over the Christmas period. This week, Maya reportedly received a letter demanding the return of Ben’s engagement ring, but if one half of an engaged couple calls off the wedding, what happens to the engagement ring?

Not every engagement leads to a wedding, and even for those who do get married, there may be a divorce down the line. As divorce lawyers, it’s not unusual for the soon-to-be-ex-couple to argue about who keeps the engagement ring, particularly if the ring was expensive.

One half of the couple will put forward the argument that they bought it, so they own it. The other half of the couple, naturally, will advance the argument that the ring was given to them as a gift, so they can claim rightful ownership.

What does the law say about engagement rings?

The Law Reform (Miscellaneous Provisions) Act 1970 states:

“The gift of an engagement ring shall be presumed to be an absolute gift; this presumption may be rebutted by proving that the ring was given on the condition, express or implied, that it should be returned if the marriage did not take place for any reason.”

This means that unless there was an agreement to return the engagement ring if the wedding was cancelled, then the recipient is under no obligation to return the ring.

What if the engagement ring is a family heirloom?

If the engagement ring is a family heirloom, perhaps passed down through the family for many generations – and the recipient was made aware of this at the time – then it may be easier to succeed in an argument that the ring should be returned if the wedding is called off. However, no matter how sentimental the ring may be, if there has been no agreement made that the ring must be returned to the proposer, the Act still stands.

How do you ensure that you keep the ring if things don’t work out?

Many couples now enter into a prenuptial or postnuptial agreement. If the parties feel really strongly about it, provision for the fate of the engagement ring can be included in the agreement as a specific term should the couple divorce. Otherwise, the same general rule applies: the engagement ring is an absolute gift (and therefore not returnable) unless there was a condition made about the ring being returned when it was given.

So, if you are planning to ask your loved one to marry you this Valentine’s Day, maybe consider the future of the ring. We know that thoughts of break-ups and divorces should be the last thing on your mind, but if the ring has a lot of sentimental value, it might be worth protecting it in some way.

If you need advice on this topic, or any other matters concerning divorce or family law, please get in touch with our team at McAlister Family Law.

School admissions season – what happens if we disagree?

Posted on 19th January 2023 by McAlister Family Law

School admissions season – What happens if we disagree?

January is never an easy month. It is one of the few times in the year where two 31-day months follow one after the other, spring feels like a lifetime away and pay day even further. On top of that, it’s school administration season. Here, Michael Compston looks at what happens if parents cannot agree on a school and how the choice can be made both inside and outside the court.

The local authority deadlines vary from authority to authority, but generally primary school deadlines are in place for the middle of January. Miss that deadline and your child runs the risk of not being accepted into their first-choice school and the application being considered as a late application.

Secondary school applications tend to run on a slightly different timetable, with deadlines being earlier in the academic year. However, we find that secondary school applications follow a more structured process as children/parents tend to be guided through this by the primary school during the child’s final year.

Children getting ready for primary school do not always have that information or guidance readily available, so this blog aims to consider how to resolve any issues arising out of primary school admissions.

Most if not all Local Authorities now process these applications online. The process is fairly straightforward; you go to the prospective schools, decide which ones you like or do not like, then select those schools in preferential order.

But what happens if you and the child’s other parent disagree? If you both have parental responsibility for a child, then it is incumbent on you both to come to a decision together. One of you may favour the school with strong academics or greater extra-curricular provision, whereas the other favours the school with more green space or a better pupil to teacher ratio. If you cannot agree on the preference order, how do you resolve matters?

Outside of court

The first solution is a simple one. Talk to each other. It might sound simple but actually discussing your preferences and why you think one school is better than the other can open up topics for discussion that you might not have considered.

If you are not able to reach a decision by discussing the matter between yourselves, then another option is to attend mediation. Mediators are trained to facilitate discussion between parents across a broad range of matters, not just limited to discussions around child contact. They can offer a neutral perspective and encourage back and forth discussion between the two of you.

Court proceedings

Should mediation not work, then the last recourse is to ask the court to make a decision by making a Specific Issue Order to decide that specific point. Alternatively, if the other parent is refusing to allow you access to the application and is preparing to submit the application themselves, it could be an application for a Prohibited Steps Order to prevent them submitting the application. Either way, both applications would be considering the same thing – what is in the best interests of the child.

This can be a costly exercise and a time-consuming exercise too. You are essentially asking the court to make a decision that, ultimately, is about what is best for the child. The court has not met your child, the court does not have the knowledge of the schools that the parents have, so you must think carefully before asking the court to intervene and make a decision that will have a long-lasting effect on your child’s education; if the child remains in their school, they will be in primary for seven years or secondary for five, so it is an important decision.

If you do end up in court proceedings, the court must consider what is in the child’s best interests. The court would almost certainly say initially that this is a decision that the parents should come to themselves; after all, the parents know the child better than the court. You would most likely both need to prepare witness statements on why you consider that your order of schools is the most suitable and then be prepared to argue your case in front of a judge.

Whilst this is very much a last resort, it is important to remember that this is the last recourse for the court. If you cannot agree, the court will likely want order you both to give evidence. It is far, far better if you can resolve matters between yourselves, with or without the help of a mediator, rather than reverting to the court process.

One Final Thought

Throughout all of these avenues for resolving any dispute on school choices, it is important to remember that the ultimate decision on where a child goes to school is down to the Local Authority in terms of state schools. The order of preferences is still important, as it will help to inform the decision of the Local Authority, but the decision is ultimately one for them.

If you need advice on this topic, or any other matters concerning divorce or family law, please get in touch with our team at McAlister Family Law.

We cannot agree on counselling for our child – What will the court decide?

Posted on 12th January 202312th January 2023 by McAlister Family Law

We cannot agree on counselling for our child – What will the court decide?

According to statistics, nearly one in 10 children and young people are affected by a mental health problem. The good news is that there is now more awareness of this issue and a number of resources available to children and young people who may be suffering. Here, Melissa Jones looks at what the court can decide if parents cannot agree on counselling for their child?

Understandably, separation and divorce can be a difficult and anxious time for children. They might feel confused and believe they need to “pick sides”. They might also believe that the separation of their parents is “their fault” and might be feeling guilty.

Where does this leave you?

Decisions on a child attending counselling would fall under the umbrella of medical decisions. If you both agree, then great, they would attend counselling. If only one parent agrees, this does not necessarily mean that the counselling should go ahead and with such important decisions is not advisable to act unilaterally. This issue should be agreed upon by all of those with parental responsibility for the child(ren).

What is Parental Responsibility?

Under section 3 (1) of the Children Act 1989 “parental responsibility” means all the rights, duties, powers, responsibilities and authority which by law a parent of a child has in relation to the child and his property.

What application do I need to make?

In the absence consent from all those who hold parental responsibility, a parent may wish to apply to the court for a Specific Issue Order, for the court’s permission to enable them to make decisions about the child in the absence of the other parent’s consent.

The application that would need to be made comes under Section 8 of the Children Act 1989 and is for a specific issue application; to specifically address what is the best interests of the children’s education and medical matters. Within the proceedings evidence shall be put forward by both parents to set out how their proposal is in the children’s best interests.

However, prior to making an application, the court would encourage the parties to engage in Alternative Dispute Resolution, to see if matters can be resolved. It may be that if you have spoken to a medical professional or a GP who highly recommends that the child or children attend counselling then you may be better assisted in your discussions with the other parent or in any application to the court.

Most importantly it would be best to understand why the other parent objects to the child(ren) attending counselling. Perhaps they need more information first or would like to speak to the counsellor themselves either on their own or jointly with you.

What will the court decide?

If matters relating to a child’s medical care are put before the Court, the matter then becomes a question of what is best for the child and not what is best for the parents. The Court’s primary consideration will be the needs of the child and will have regard to the Welfare Checklist (s.1 (3) CA 1989) when reaching their decisions. Arguably attending Counselling for the child might be in the child’s best interest and a vital resource to help them deal with their mental health issues. Conversely, it might not be necessary for the child to attend counselling and it may be considered intrusive and invasive given their age, characteristics and understanding. It is of course a balancing act.

Can I not just take them to counselling anyway?

However, if one parent has taken matters in their own hands and begins the process of making medical decisions without the other parents’ consent, that would not be perceived well by the court. In fact, if you choose to ignore the other parent’s views or objections, then they in turn could make an application to the family court to prevent you from making the child(ren) available for counselling. This also comes under Section 8 of the Children Act 1989 and would be for a prohibited steps order; to prohibit the child(ren) from attending counselling.

In all cases and at all times parents are strongly encouraged not just to communicate their wishes, but to co parent effectively for the best interests of their children.

If you need advice on this topic, or any other matters concerning children issues, please get in touch with our private child team at McAlister Family Law.

Resource: https://www.counselling-directory.org.uk/young-people-stats.html#riskfactors