I’m getting a divorce – Will I get support from my employer?

Posted on 14th September 2023 by McAlister Family Law

I’m getting a divorce – Will I get support from my employer?

Going through a divorce is undoubtedly one of the most difficult things a person can experience. Going through a divorce whilst also working however can seem an impossible task. Here, Weronika Husejko looks at the pressure on divorcing couples and explores how employers are providing support to their divorcing employees.

Most people suffer from an extreme amount of stress when separating from their spouse, the breakdown of the marriage being a significant change to their life. In addition to coping with the emotional side of the break-up, spouses must also deal with the practical side, to formalise the separation, which can be overwhelming.

The majority of separating spouses have financial ties, such as jointly owned property, which will need to be divided. One of the toughest parts of a divorce is usually when the couple must make a decision as to how these assets should be divided, particularly in cases where there are not enough to meet both spouses’ needs.

Dealing with these types of financial matters upon separation is challenging and emotionally draining, particularly for those who end up in Court proceedings, due to their time consuming and costly nature. For example, those in Court proceedings are usually required to comply with several Court directions, including attending Court hearings, which is a stressful experience in itself.

A divorce is therefore very demanding and as a result, it is not uncommon for employees experiencing a marital breakdown to feel torn between their job and their divorce, this often having a detrimental effect on their mental health. Historically speaking this has been something which most employees have unfortunately been expected to endure.

The BBC have however recently reported that some companies are beginning to introduce and build policies which are intended to help their employees in navigating a divorce.

By way of example, some companies are offering benefits such as: –

Paid time off to attend things such as solicitors’ meetings or mediation.
Flexible working arrangements
Access to emotional and mental health support
Access to legal advice

There are also organisations in the UK which are trying to promote more family-friendly policies like those mentioned above to help those going through the breakdown of a relationship. For example, the Positive Parenting Alliance have called for a separation to be recognised as a ‘life event’ by employers in HR policies and have also suggested that employees going through a separation should be offered support by way of counselling if needed.

Tesco is one of the first large companies in the UK to provide their employees with this type of support, as recommended by the Positive Parenting Alliance.

In summary, whether you get any support from your employer during your divorce will be dependent upon their specific company policy, so you may wish to consider speaking to your HR department about the options available to you.

It does seem that there is a shift happening with more companies recognising the difficulties involved in a marital breakdown. In my view, this is a positive shift which also demonstrates an increasing awareness of the importance of mental health generally, which will hopefully result in more people receiving the support they need during what is a very difficult time.

If you or someone you know is affected by the issues raised in this blog post, we can provide you with expert legal advice. For more information, please get in touch with our specialist team at hello@mcalisterfamilylaw.co.uk

Are pre-nuptial agreements only for the rich and famous?

Posted on 31st August 2023 by McAlister Family Law

Are pre-nuptial agreements only for the rich and famous?

As seen with the ongoing separation of Hollywood star Kevin Costner, pre-nuptial agreements are often considered something that is limited to the super-wealthy or the Hollywood Hills. McAlister Family Law Associate, Aaron Williams, aims to shed light on what prenuptial agreements entail and whether they hold legal weight in the United Kingdom.

Prenuptial agreements, often referred to as “prenups,” are legal documents that couples enter into before marriage or civil partnership to outline the division of assets and financial responsibilities in the event of separation or divorce. A prenuptial agreement is a legally binding contract that helps couples establish financial boundaries and protect their assets in the event of a relationship breakdown. Although these agreements are more commonly associated with high-net-worth individuals, they can benefit any couple looking to safeguard their financial interests.

The primary purpose of a prenup is to provide clarity and certainty regarding the division of assets, debts, and other financial matters. It allows couples to determine how their property, investments, inheritances, and business interests will be divided in the event of separation or divorce. Prenuptial agreements can also address issues such as spousal support and the allocation of debts, providing a comprehensive framework for resolving potential disputes. Prenuptial agreements are legally recognized in the United Kingdom, but their enforceability is subject to the discretion of the courts. While they are not automatically binding, they carry significant weight if certain conditions are met.

To ensure the enforceability of a prenuptial agreement, it must be entered into willingly, with both parties having received independent legal advice and provided full financial disclosure. The agreement should also be fair and reasonable at the time it is made, taking into consideration the future needs of both parties and any children involved. It is important to note that the courts retain the power to depart from the terms of a prenuptial agreement if they deem it unfair in the circumstances. Factors such as the length of the marriage, the welfare of any children, and significant changes in the parties’ financial situations may be considered when determining the enforceability of a prenup.

Prenuptial agreements offer couples a valuable tool for establishing financial arrangements and protecting their assets in case of a relationship breakdown. While not automatically binding in the U.K., a well-drafted and fair prenup, entered into with full disclosure and legal advice, can carry significant weight in court proceedings.

Maya Jama receives legal letter demanding £800,000 ring back

Posted on 26th January 2023 by McAlister Family Law

Maya Jama receives legal letter demanding £800,000 ring back

Maya Jama receives legal letter demanding the return of £800,000 engagement ring to ex-fiancé Ben Simmons. Here, Lisa Brown looks at what happens to the ring if an engagement is called off.

The new Love Island host and basketball player ended their relationship last summer after Ben’s proposal to Maya over the Christmas period. This week, Maya reportedly received a letter demanding the return of Ben’s engagement ring, but if one half of an engaged couple calls off the wedding, what happens to the engagement ring?

Not every engagement leads to a wedding, and even for those who do get married, there may be a divorce down the line. As divorce lawyers, it’s not unusual for the soon-to-be-ex-couple to argue about who keeps the engagement ring, particularly if the ring was expensive.

One half of the couple will put forward the argument that they bought it, so they own it. The other half of the couple, naturally, will advance the argument that the ring was given to them as a gift, so they can claim rightful ownership.

What does the law say about engagement rings?

The Law Reform (Miscellaneous Provisions) Act 1970 states:

“The gift of an engagement ring shall be presumed to be an absolute gift; this presumption may be rebutted by proving that the ring was given on the condition, express or implied, that it should be returned if the marriage did not take place for any reason.”

This means that unless there was an agreement to return the engagement ring if the wedding was cancelled, then the recipient is under no obligation to return the ring.

What if the engagement ring is a family heirloom?

If the engagement ring is a family heirloom, perhaps passed down through the family for many generations – and the recipient was made aware of this at the time – then it may be easier to succeed in an argument that the ring should be returned if the wedding is called off. However, no matter how sentimental the ring may be, if there has been no agreement made that the ring must be returned to the proposer, the Act still stands.

How do you ensure that you keep the ring if things don’t work out?

Many couples now enter into a prenuptial or postnuptial agreement. If the parties feel really strongly about it, provision for the fate of the engagement ring can be included in the agreement as a specific term should the couple divorce. Otherwise, the same general rule applies: the engagement ring is an absolute gift (and therefore not returnable) unless there was a condition made about the ring being returned when it was given.

So, if you are planning to ask your loved one to marry you this Valentine’s Day, maybe consider the future of the ring. We know that thoughts of break-ups and divorces should be the last thing on your mind, but if the ring has a lot of sentimental value, it might be worth protecting it in some way.

If you need advice on this topic, or any other matters concerning divorce or family law, please get in touch with our team at McAlister Family Law.

School admissions season – what happens if we disagree?

Posted on 19th January 2023 by McAlister Family Law

School admissions season – What happens if we disagree?

January is never an easy month. It is one of the few times in the year where two 31-day months follow one after the other, spring feels like a lifetime away and pay day even further. On top of that, it’s school administration season. Here, Michael Compston looks at what happens if parents cannot agree on a school and how the choice can be made both inside and outside the court.

The local authority deadlines vary from authority to authority, but generally primary school deadlines are in place for the middle of January. Miss that deadline and your child runs the risk of not being accepted into their first-choice school and the application being considered as a late application.

Secondary school applications tend to run on a slightly different timetable, with deadlines being earlier in the academic year. However, we find that secondary school applications follow a more structured process as children/parents tend to be guided through this by the primary school during the child’s final year.

Children getting ready for primary school do not always have that information or guidance readily available, so this blog aims to consider how to resolve any issues arising out of primary school admissions.

Most if not all Local Authorities now process these applications online. The process is fairly straightforward; you go to the prospective schools, decide which ones you like or do not like, then select those schools in preferential order.

But what happens if you and the child’s other parent disagree? If you both have parental responsibility for a child, then it is incumbent on you both to come to a decision together. One of you may favour the school with strong academics or greater extra-curricular provision, whereas the other favours the school with more green space or a better pupil to teacher ratio. If you cannot agree on the preference order, how do you resolve matters?

Outside of court

The first solution is a simple one. Talk to each other. It might sound simple but actually discussing your preferences and why you think one school is better than the other can open up topics for discussion that you might not have considered.

If you are not able to reach a decision by discussing the matter between yourselves, then another option is to attend mediation. Mediators are trained to facilitate discussion between parents across a broad range of matters, not just limited to discussions around child contact. They can offer a neutral perspective and encourage back and forth discussion between the two of you.

Court proceedings

Should mediation not work, then the last recourse is to ask the court to make a decision by making a Specific Issue Order to decide that specific point. Alternatively, if the other parent is refusing to allow you access to the application and is preparing to submit the application themselves, it could be an application for a Prohibited Steps Order to prevent them submitting the application. Either way, both applications would be considering the same thing – what is in the best interests of the child.

This can be a costly exercise and a time-consuming exercise too. You are essentially asking the court to make a decision that, ultimately, is about what is best for the child. The court has not met your child, the court does not have the knowledge of the schools that the parents have, so you must think carefully before asking the court to intervene and make a decision that will have a long-lasting effect on your child’s education; if the child remains in their school, they will be in primary for seven years or secondary for five, so it is an important decision.

If you do end up in court proceedings, the court must consider what is in the child’s best interests. The court would almost certainly say initially that this is a decision that the parents should come to themselves; after all, the parents know the child better than the court. You would most likely both need to prepare witness statements on why you consider that your order of schools is the most suitable and then be prepared to argue your case in front of a judge.

Whilst this is very much a last resort, it is important to remember that this is the last recourse for the court. If you cannot agree, the court will likely want order you both to give evidence. It is far, far better if you can resolve matters between yourselves, with or without the help of a mediator, rather than reverting to the court process.

One Final Thought

Throughout all of these avenues for resolving any dispute on school choices, it is important to remember that the ultimate decision on where a child goes to school is down to the Local Authority in terms of state schools. The order of preferences is still important, as it will help to inform the decision of the Local Authority, but the decision is ultimately one for them.

If you need advice on this topic, or any other matters concerning divorce or family law, please get in touch with our team at McAlister Family Law.

We cannot agree on counselling for our child – What will the court decide?

Posted on 12th January 202312th January 2023 by McAlister Family Law

We cannot agree on counselling for our child – What will the court decide?

According to statistics, nearly one in 10 children and young people are affected by a mental health problem. The good news is that there is now more awareness of this issue and a number of resources available to children and young people who may be suffering. Here, Melissa Jones looks at what the court can decide if parents cannot agree on counselling for their child?

Understandably, separation and divorce can be a difficult and anxious time for children. They might feel confused and believe they need to “pick sides”. They might also believe that the separation of their parents is “their fault” and might be feeling guilty.

Where does this leave you?

Decisions on a child attending counselling would fall under the umbrella of medical decisions. If you both agree, then great, they would attend counselling. If only one parent agrees, this does not necessarily mean that the counselling should go ahead and with such important decisions is not advisable to act unilaterally. This issue should be agreed upon by all of those with parental responsibility for the child(ren).

What is Parental Responsibility?

Under section 3 (1) of the Children Act 1989 “parental responsibility” means all the rights, duties, powers, responsibilities and authority which by law a parent of a child has in relation to the child and his property.

What application do I need to make?

In the absence consent from all those who hold parental responsibility, a parent may wish to apply to the court for a Specific Issue Order, for the court’s permission to enable them to make decisions about the child in the absence of the other parent’s consent.

The application that would need to be made comes under Section 8 of the Children Act 1989 and is for a specific issue application; to specifically address what is the best interests of the children’s education and medical matters. Within the proceedings evidence shall be put forward by both parents to set out how their proposal is in the children’s best interests.

However, prior to making an application, the court would encourage the parties to engage in Alternative Dispute Resolution, to see if matters can be resolved. It may be that if you have spoken to a medical professional or a GP who highly recommends that the child or children attend counselling then you may be better assisted in your discussions with the other parent or in any application to the court.

Most importantly it would be best to understand why the other parent objects to the child(ren) attending counselling. Perhaps they need more information first or would like to speak to the counsellor themselves either on their own or jointly with you.

What will the court decide?

If matters relating to a child’s medical care are put before the Court, the matter then becomes a question of what is best for the child and not what is best for the parents. The Court’s primary consideration will be the needs of the child and will have regard to the Welfare Checklist (s.1 (3) CA 1989) when reaching their decisions. Arguably attending Counselling for the child might be in the child’s best interest and a vital resource to help them deal with their mental health issues. Conversely, it might not be necessary for the child to attend counselling and it may be considered intrusive and invasive given their age, characteristics and understanding. It is of course a balancing act.

Can I not just take them to counselling anyway?

However, if one parent has taken matters in their own hands and begins the process of making medical decisions without the other parents’ consent, that would not be perceived well by the court. In fact, if you choose to ignore the other parent’s views or objections, then they in turn could make an application to the family court to prevent you from making the child(ren) available for counselling. This also comes under Section 8 of the Children Act 1989 and would be for a prohibited steps order; to prohibit the child(ren) from attending counselling.

In all cases and at all times parents are strongly encouraged not just to communicate their wishes, but to co parent effectively for the best interests of their children.

If you need advice on this topic, or any other matters concerning children issues, please get in touch with our private child team at McAlister Family Law.

Resource: https://www.counselling-directory.org.uk/young-people-stats.html#riskfactors

How will I get a fair divorce settlement if my ex hides their assets?

Posted on 5th January 20235th January 2023 by McAlister Family Law

How will I get a fair divorce settlement if my ex hides their assets?

A common worry that those divorcing have is that their ex will hide assets to prevent them receiving a fair divorce settlement. Thankfully most people who get divorced are honest about their financial circumstances, but what if they are not? Here, Partner Fiona Wood discusses what you can do to if you suspect your spouse is hiding assets throughout financial settlements.

Before a financial settlement is negotiated it is usual for both spouses to give full financial disclosure, confirming all their assets, company interests, pensions, incomes and liabilities. Documentation needs to be provided to support what they state their financial circumstances are, including bank statements for all accounts for at least the last 12 months. If assets have not been disclosed it is often possible to prove this from the documents that have been provided, such as regular transfers from one bank account to another account that has not been disclosed.

Sometimes people give assets to friends or family, shortly before they divorce, in an attempt to exclude them from the divorce settlement. If an asset has been transferred to another person at an undervalue within a period of three years before the divorce, the onus is on the person who did this to prove that it was a legitimate transfer that was not done to reduce their ex’s financial claims. If they cannot prove this, a judge can overturn the transfer, or they can add the amount that has been lost back into the matrimonial pot.

If you are genuinely concerned that your ex is about to give away an asset or transfer it out of the country, you can apply to court for a freezing order. You need good evidence that this is about to happen, to successfully obtain a freezing order, but it is an order that can be made in court proceedings.

Sometimes one spouse has complicated finances, often of an international nature, and their ex is concerned that they will not provide a true picture of their assets. In this scenario you can do some research yourself, looking at Companies House and at the Land Registry in the UK, both of which are accessible to the public, and their equivalents in some other countries. I had a case where one spouse failed to disclose a property that he purchased in Florida, but as there is a public land registry in Florida, we were able to show that they owned this property.

There are also professionals who specialise in assets tracing, on an international scale, who use all legal means available to track down assets owned in the UK and across the world. Even if they cannot locate specific assets, they may be able to provide enough information to enable you to convince a judge that there are hidden assets and that this should be taken into account within the divorce settlement.

If you are concerned about your ex hiding assets to reduce your financial claims on divorce, there are several ways in which you can investigate this and there are legal remedies available to you if it transpires that they have done this or they are about to do this.

Understandably Judges are very unimpressed by those who do try to hide assets. There are likely to be cost orders made against them. Also, as Judges have a broad discretion when it comes to deciding what a fair financial settlement is, so the judge may order that they receive a less generous settlement than they would have received if they had not tried to hide assets.

If you have already obtained a financial settlement, but it comes to light that your ex failed to disclose some of their assets whilst you were negotiating that settlement, the financial settlement can be reopened. There are significant consequences for those who try to hide assets. Don’t do it!

If you are affected by any of the issues raised here, please get in touch today. We are here to help.

Emotional affairs, is it cheating?

Posted on 22nd December 2022 by McAlister Family Law

Emotional affairs, is it cheating?

Emotional affairs, some people don’t count it as cheating and others do. With no physical relationship in an emotional affair, how do family lawyers view it and is it grounds for a divorce? Here, Frances Bentley explores emotional affairs, questions if they should be classed as cheating, and explains whether it is grounds for a divorce.

There has been a lot of focus recently on emotional affairs and what they mean. Some people believe it doesn’t count as cheating because there is no physical relationship with somebody else. Some people think it is worse because that person is becoming emotionally reliant on somebody else, rather than their own partner or spouse.

An emotional affair is bond between two people which mimics or matches the closeness of a romantic relationship but isn’t physical. There has been a survey completed In the USA which concluded that 35% of women and 45% of men had admitted having an emotional affair before.

So why do emotional affairs happen in the first place?

It does raise a question as to whether there is a wider problem within the marriage. There could have been a breakdown in communication, it could be the result of not spending enough time together, or there could be a general lack of happiness within a marriage. Recent reports have looked at emotional affairs and asked some people to comment on their experiences and the impact. Here is what they said:

“It’s now been 6 months and I love him”

“My emotional affair is coming to an end after 2 years. I am feeling sad and pensive”

“I miss my emotional affair now that it’s gone…I feel so alone”.

It is clear that an emotional affair can put incredible strains on a marriage, and even lead to marriage breakdown leading to divorce.

What about Divorce and the Law?

Before the divorce law changed in April 2022, as family lawyers we saw clients who thought that their partner having an emotional affair constituted “adultery”. To them, their spouse having an emotional relationship with someone else had caused their marriage to break down. However, under the old law an affair could only count as adultery if there had been a sexual relationship and if that sexual relationship was with a person of the opposite sex.

This was sometimes a devastating discovery for both individuals whose partner had an emotional affair or had engaged in a same sex sexual relationship. The law came under fire for being completely outdated (and rightly so). We had to advise our clients that rather than the affair being labelled as adultery, they would have to rely on it being “unreasonable behaviour”. Understandably, to them didn’t feel like it carried the same recognition of the affair that had caused the marriage to break down. Adultery and unreasonable behaviour petitions were plagued with issues; more often than not it would result in the other party refusing to accept or admit the behaviour, toing and froing on the wording of divorce petitions, animosity and a feeling of complete lack of control over the process for person applying.

In April 2022 the old divorce law was completely abolished, with the “facts” needing to be relied on (such as adultery and unreasonable behaviour) being removed.

A person applying for a divorce now needs to simply confirm within the divorce application that the marriage has “irretrievably broken down”. There is no need to worry about the other person refusing to accept the behaviour happened or refusing to admit it (which often left a person bringing the divorce having no recognition of why the marriage had broken down).

Although the new divorce application doesn’t require an explanation of what caused the marriage breakdown, the law being simplified now means that individuals who have been on the other side of any affair (whether that be an emotional affair or a physical affair) can relatively simply make a divorce application and confirm there has been “irretrievable breakdown” as a result of the affair. It now allows them an element of control over the divorce process which for many, was much needed.

If you are affected by any of the issues raised here, please get in touch today. We are here to help.

Can my children go on holiday with their grandparents if my ex does not consent?

Posted on 26th August 202224th January 2023 by McAlister Family Law

Can my children go on holiday with their grandparents if my ex does not consent?

Taking children on holiday can often be more challenging between separated parents, but can grandparents take their grandchildren on holiday, and how easy is it in a separated family? Here, Michael Compston looks at court orders, parental responsibility, and offers advice to grandparents looking to plan a holiday.

Firstly, who can take children on holiday? This blog assumes that you and your ex- have separated and no longer live together, but that there is no court order in place; if you do have a court order, you should refer to the warning notices within that order.

Only those individuals with parental responsibility have the capacity to make decisions on who may take children out of the country on foreign holidays. Parents acquire parental responsibility most typically at birth; the mother will acquire it by virtue of being the child’s mother, and the Father will acquire parental responsibility if he is married to the Mother at the time the child’s birth or he is named on the child’s birth certificate as the Father. Similar provisions apply for same-sex couples.

With no court order in place, permission of those with parental responsibility is required before taking children on a foreign holiday. This is the case regardless of who the child lives with. Consent should not be unreasonably withheld – why would a parent not want their child to experience a foreign holiday – but if the holiday is at risk of putting a child in danger, or there are concerns about the children not returning, then consent may be withheld. Consent is often withheld because the ex- is worried about their routine time with the child being interrupted. It may be helpful to consider how any lost time could be made up, if consent is being withheld, as a means to broker an agreement.

Grandparents typically don’t have parental responsibility for children – there are exceptions to this, of course, but we are looking at the general position here. Those with parental responsibility are free to delegate childcare to who they consider appropriate to provide such childcare. We see this when parents work longer hours than children are at school or nursery and grandma or grandad need to collect the children and provide childcare for a couple of hours. We don’t often think about the action of delegating that responsibility as it is simply what many working families do as part and parcel of 21^st century life; everybody pitches in for the childcare, especially when both parents work full-time, or close to full-time jobs.

It is advisable for grandparents to plan their holidays well in advance and they must ensure that they have permission of all individuals with parental responsibility. Written consent is not strictly a legal requirement but it would be a very good idea to have something from everyone who has parental responsibility, in writing, that can be shown to any customs officials querying the legal right to take the children on holiday. This is particularly important when the children have a different surname to the grandparents.

If consent is withheld from any individual with parental responsibility, then the grandparents can apply to court for a Specific Issue Order. They will need permission to make such an application, granted by the court, but getting permission to make the application is usually a formality – this is not the same as permission being given to take the children on holiday. The court will list the matter for a Final Hearing where the parties – grandparents and those with parental responsibility – will give evidence in front of a Judge and have the opportunity to cross-examine (ask questions) of the other parties before the Judge makes a final decision.

The Judge will consider first and foremost what is in the child’s best interests. Judges will encourage the parties to come to an agreement but, if no agreement is reached, then they will decide what is in the child’s best interests and make an order accordingly.

Separated parents and international travel during Covid-19 restrictions

Posted on 18th August 202224th January 2023 by McAlister Family Law

Separated parents and international travel during Covid-19 restrictions

As of August 2022, the Covid-19 pandemic continues to affect international travel, for most, this can mean a last-minute rush to the airport to avoid isolation, but for separated parents the added stress of acquiring consent to travel with their child from the other parent can make holidays even more challenging. Here, Heather Lucy explains how the ongoing Covid-19 pandemic can play a role in organising a holiday between separated parents.

With holiday season in full swing, many parents want to take the opportunity to take their children on holiday. For most families this tends not to be much of an issue, but for families with separated parents there are a few more things to consider. Firstly, if one parent wants to take a child abroad, whether that be permanently or temporarily, the other parent with parental responsibility will need to give consent. However, anyone with the benefit of a Child Arrangements Order, stating that their child is to ‘live with’ them, is legally allowed to remove the child from England and Wales for a period of less than 28 days without the consent of the other parent, even though they have parental responsibility.

What about Covid-19?

As of August 2022, providing you and your child are fully vaccinated, there are 172 countries open to you worldwide, 28 countries that require you to test before you travel, 3 countries that require you to quarantine upon arrival, and only 24 countries fully closed. On the other hand, if either you or your child are unvaccinated or haven’t received all of your vaccinations, only 87 countries are open to you, 71 require you to test before you travel, 19 countries require you to quarantine upon arrival, and 50 countries are fully closed. However, the status of each of these countries so called ‘openness’ can change at any given point.

It is understandable then why any parent may have some reservations around their child travelling abroad with their ex-partner, not least because of the fear that once in the destination country, your ex-partner and child might face a period of self-isolation upon their arrival. Again, changes in the status of ‘openness’ can happen at any time and parents can be caught out with an unexpectedly long stay and issues with accommodation. On top of this, there is the ever-present worry around the risk of the child either contracting Covid-19 or transferring it.

Written consent.

If you do wish to travel abroad with your child, the first step is to seek written consent from the other parent before travelling. If this is something which may prove difficult, try to have an open discussion with the other parent; understand and alleviate any fears that they may have by confirming:

Travel dates and times
Where you will be staying
Explain how you will keep the child safe throughout the holiday
Explain the rules around quarantine and testing if you are traveling to a country where this is required

Compromise and flexibility is key, but what happens if you cannot come to an agreement or if your ex-partner gives consent but then changes their mind?

You can make an application to the court for a Specific Issue Order stating that you can remove the child from the country and the court will make the final decision. On the other hand, if you are the partner who is not traveling and you haven’t given consent and are worried that your ex-partner will travel with your child regardless, you can apply to the court for a Prohibited Steps Order to prevent them from traveling. If you are in this situation, you should seek legal advice urgently as this may also be considered child abduction.

Will the court hear this matter in time?

The court is dealing with a significant amount of cases and there is no guarantee that it will be able to deal with an application such as this as quickly as might be necessary. Our advice is to deal with this matter before it becomes an urgent one. There are alternatives to making a court application, such as engaging your solicitor and seeing if the matter can be negotiated or referring to mediation to see if an arrangement can be reached.

If you are affected by any of the issues outlined here, please get in touch with our specialist teams today.

Can I stop my children going on holiday with my ex’s new partner?

Posted on 11th August 202224th January 2023 by McAlister Family Law

Can I stop my children going on holiday with my ex’s new partner?

With the school holidays here and plans being made for families to go abroad or on holiday in the UK, one of the most frequently asked questions is where a parent stands with their children going on holiday with their ex’s new partner. Here Melissa Jones explains the factors at play when the Court decides whether or not a parent can prevent their children from going on holiday with their ex’s new partner.

Perhaps you have not yet met your ex’s new partner and therefore know little about them or maybe the two of you didn’t get off on the best foot.

Before you make any decisions, with family law cases concerning children, it is always best to start from their point of view and think reasonably as to why you might object to the partner tagging along. You might be worried that the new partner has only just come on the scene and is therefore unfamiliar with your children. This is understandable but is unlikely to convince a court that this holiday should not happen if the partner was to attend.

But why should I miss out on time with my children and the new partner gets to spend time with them?

This is understandable, but the court is becoming more familiar with “separated families” or “blended families”. The court will appreciate that parents move on after separation and each should be afforded the opportunity to go on holiday as a family. The focus in this scenario is to ensure you arrange your own holiday(s) with the children so you can enjoy quality time with them, one on one.

It may be that in the future, you may also want to go on holiday with the children and your new partner and you would ideally want this to be fully supported by your children’s other parents.

Can I get a court order to stop my ex taking the children on holiday with their partner?

If there is an Order in place, usually a Child Arrangements Order (formerly a Residence Order) then a child can be taken abroad for up to a month without needing the written consent of the other parent.

Parental Responsibility

If there is not a court order in place, what first needs to be considered is whether you have parental responsibility. If both parents share parental responsibility, then what is often overlooked is that your partner will need your written consent in order to take the child out of the United Kingdom (Section 13 (2) of the Children Act 1989). Failing to do so could lead to that parent committing an offence of abduction for which they can be fined, imprisoned or both.

If you object to the partner attending the holiday, you are essentially objecting to the other parent taking the children on holiday. As such, you can make an application to the court for a Prohibited Steps Order, to prohibit the other parent taking the children on the holiday.

Likewise, if the other parent believes your consent is being unreasonably withheld, then they can make an application to the court for a Specific Issuer Order, for permission to take the children on holiday in the absence of your consent.

In either scenario, the Judge will take into account the individual circumstances of each family. The Court rarely denies permission to take a child on holiday abroad where there is an existing relationship between the parent and child and the plans are reasonable in all of the circumstances. The court is unlikely to implement a restriction against the new partner attending in the absence of safeguarding concerns as it is a dispute between the two parents. Any Prohibited Steps Order or Specific Issue Order will relate to the parent either being given permission to go abroad with the children or being prohibited from taking the children on holiday, not in relation to the new partner. It would be very rare for a third party to be named in either order.

When the court denied permission it is usually in circumstances where the plans are patently not in the child’s best interests or where the Court deems the child may not be returned to the country.

The child’s best interests

If only one parent has parental responsibility, and again there are no Court orders in place, then permission is not necessarily needed to take a child abroad on holiday. That being said, and with your child’s best interests at heart, consultation should always take place with the other parent (if they are in regular contact with the child) in order to reach an agreement that is right for everyone.

Open lines of communication

What is important is communication and trying to agree any travel arrangements between you and the other parent in advance. This is not always possible, but if it can be achieved, it will avoid any applications to the court being necessary.

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