I’m getting a divorce – Will I get support from my employer?

Posted on 14th September 2023 by McAlister Family Law

I’m getting a divorce – Will I get support from my employer?

Going through a divorce is undoubtedly one of the most difficult things a person can experience. Going through a divorce whilst also working however can seem an impossible task. Here, Weronika Husejko looks at the pressure on divorcing couples and explores how employers are providing support to their divorcing employees.

Most people suffer from an extreme amount of stress when separating from their spouse, the breakdown of the marriage being a significant change to their life. In addition to coping with the emotional side of the break-up, spouses must also deal with the practical side, to formalise the separation, which can be overwhelming.

The majority of separating spouses have financial ties, such as jointly owned property, which will need to be divided. One of the toughest parts of a divorce is usually when the couple must make a decision as to how these assets should be divided, particularly in cases where there are not enough to meet both spouses’ needs.

Dealing with these types of financial matters upon separation is challenging and emotionally draining, particularly for those who end up in Court proceedings, due to their time consuming and costly nature. For example, those in Court proceedings are usually required to comply with several Court directions, including attending Court hearings, which is a stressful experience in itself.

A divorce is therefore very demanding and as a result, it is not uncommon for employees experiencing a marital breakdown to feel torn between their job and their divorce, this often having a detrimental effect on their mental health. Historically speaking this has been something which most employees have unfortunately been expected to endure.

The BBC have however recently reported that some companies are beginning to introduce and build policies which are intended to help their employees in navigating a divorce.

By way of example, some companies are offering benefits such as: –

Paid time off to attend things such as solicitors’ meetings or mediation.
Flexible working arrangements
Access to emotional and mental health support
Access to legal advice

There are also organisations in the UK which are trying to promote more family-friendly policies like those mentioned above to help those going through the breakdown of a relationship. For example, the Positive Parenting Alliance have called for a separation to be recognised as a ‘life event’ by employers in HR policies and have also suggested that employees going through a separation should be offered support by way of counselling if needed.

Tesco is one of the first large companies in the UK to provide their employees with this type of support, as recommended by the Positive Parenting Alliance.

In summary, whether you get any support from your employer during your divorce will be dependent upon their specific company policy, so you may wish to consider speaking to your HR department about the options available to you.

It does seem that there is a shift happening with more companies recognising the difficulties involved in a marital breakdown. In my view, this is a positive shift which also demonstrates an increasing awareness of the importance of mental health generally, which will hopefully result in more people receiving the support they need during what is a very difficult time.

If you or someone you know is affected by the issues raised in this blog post, we can provide you with expert legal advice. For more information, please get in touch with our specialist team at hello@mcalisterfamilylaw.co.uk

Are pre-nuptial agreements only for the rich and famous?

Posted on 31st August 2023 by McAlister Family Law

Are pre-nuptial agreements only for the rich and famous?

As seen with the ongoing separation of Hollywood star Kevin Costner, pre-nuptial agreements are often considered something that is limited to the super-wealthy or the Hollywood Hills. McAlister Family Law Associate, Aaron Williams, aims to shed light on what prenuptial agreements entail and whether they hold legal weight in the United Kingdom.

Prenuptial agreements, often referred to as “prenups,” are legal documents that couples enter into before marriage or civil partnership to outline the division of assets and financial responsibilities in the event of separation or divorce. A prenuptial agreement is a legally binding contract that helps couples establish financial boundaries and protect their assets in the event of a relationship breakdown. Although these agreements are more commonly associated with high-net-worth individuals, they can benefit any couple looking to safeguard their financial interests.

The primary purpose of a prenup is to provide clarity and certainty regarding the division of assets, debts, and other financial matters. It allows couples to determine how their property, investments, inheritances, and business interests will be divided in the event of separation or divorce. Prenuptial agreements can also address issues such as spousal support and the allocation of debts, providing a comprehensive framework for resolving potential disputes. Prenuptial agreements are legally recognized in the United Kingdom, but their enforceability is subject to the discretion of the courts. While they are not automatically binding, they carry significant weight if certain conditions are met.

To ensure the enforceability of a prenuptial agreement, it must be entered into willingly, with both parties having received independent legal advice and provided full financial disclosure. The agreement should also be fair and reasonable at the time it is made, taking into consideration the future needs of both parties and any children involved. It is important to note that the courts retain the power to depart from the terms of a prenuptial agreement if they deem it unfair in the circumstances. Factors such as the length of the marriage, the welfare of any children, and significant changes in the parties’ financial situations may be considered when determining the enforceability of a prenup.

Prenuptial agreements offer couples a valuable tool for establishing financial arrangements and protecting their assets in case of a relationship breakdown. While not automatically binding in the U.K., a well-drafted and fair prenup, entered into with full disclosure and legal advice, can carry significant weight in court proceedings.

After we’ve divorced, who gets the dog?

Posted on 30th November 2022 by McAlister Family Law

After we’ve divorced, who gets the dog?

From puppies to parakeets, cats to chameleons and everything in between; we are a nation of animal lovers and often the family pet is a valued and beloved member of that family. But what happens to your pets after divorce? Here, Brigid O’Malley looks at PetNups and what the court could decide.

PDSA’s 2022 findings show that 52% of UK adults own a pet. There is an estimated population of 10.2 million pet dogs and 11.1 million pet cats[1] in the UK! So, what happens when your relationship or marriage breaks down… who gets the dog?

Despite millions of us owning pets and them likely being an extremely loved and important part of the family, a pet, in the eyes of the law in England and Wales, is treated in the same way as your jewellery, TV, car and sofas! They are personal belongings – “Chattels”.

This can be a really difficult issue to advise about as animals are a significant part of family life and today’s society. They are often adored by adults and children making disputes over their ownership a sensitive subject.

We can’t agree who keeps the pets – what do we do?

Like with other issues following your separation it is sensible to try and agree with your ex-partner who keeps specific items, pets included. This can, of course, be hard and at times confrontational, but at the end of the day if an agreement can be reached between you it will likely save you the stress, time and legal costs later down the line.

If you can’t agree between yourselves then you could attend mediation to engage in discussions with your ex-partner in a safe and controlled environment, with a qualified mediator to assist you.

Court proceedings are a last resort, but they remain an option. If an agreement cannot be reached it is possible to make a court application for financial remedy as part of your divorce. The Court will consider a set of factors (from s25 of the Matrimonial Causes Act 1973) to determine a fair division of matrimonial assets. The Court can be requested to determine ownership of pets within that but, in practice, this is rare unless the animal has a high monetary valuable such as a thoroughbred racehorse or a pedigree Crufts prize winning dog. Of course, if your pets are very valuable then their value may be considered in the asset pot for division.

The Court can order the transfer of ownership of a pet as part of the proceedings, even if they have no monetary value. The close bond between the parties, any children and their pet would be relevant if the Court was invited to determine the issue of ownership.

If you are not married, then it is likely the pet(s) will stay with whoever is the registered legal owner but it may be possible to make an application to determine ownership through the Small Claims Court – this would be a civil dispute rather than a family one.

When makings its decision, the Court is likely to consider factors such as who is the registered legal owner, who is named on the insurance policy, who is registered with the vet and who generally pays for the care of the animal. Courts in other countries are moving towards an approach where the animal’s welfare is at the heart of the decision making. The Courts in England & Wales may take this into account, but the best interest of the pet is not the primary factor here, the animal is treated as a chattel.

I’ve heard of a “PetNup” – Can I get one of those?

A “PetNup” is an agreement regarding the ownership of a pet and can detail who the pet will live with if the relationship breaks down. It can also cover things like who will pay the costs associated with the animal such as vets’ bills and insurance premiums. A PetNup is not legally binding in the Courts of England and Wales but its contents, if well drafted, carefully considered and entered into without duress could carry significant weight if there was a dispute later down the line.

It would be sensible to consider entering into a prenuptial agreement prior to marriage or a cohabitation agreement when you move in with someone to ensure the ownership of your pets has been discussed and agreed in the event of the relationship coming to an end. A prenuptial agreement or cohabitation agreement can also set out the arrangements for the family finances and child arrangements so it can be a really useful document.

If you are facing a dispute about your cherished pet and want some advice, then contact our team of family experts who can advise you further.

[1] https://www.pdsa.org.uk/what-we-do/pdsa-animal-wellbeing-report/uk-pet-populations-of-dogs-cats-and-rabbits#:~:text=Our%202022%20findings%20showed%20that,of%2010.2%20million%20pet%20dogs

The call for fewer Fact-Finding Hearings

Posted on 23rd May 2022 by McAlister Family Law

The call for fewer Fact-Finding Hearings

In response to recent news, Associate Melissa Jones looks at the comments made by the President of the Family Division, Sir Andrew McFarlane at Resolution’s annual conference in Birmingham.

Sir Andrew McFarlane looked at the “default position” in cases where domestic abuse allegations are made and the need to have a fact-finding hearing. His comments were “There was an urban myth among some judges that the Court of Appeal in HN said there needed to be more fact-finding. That needed to be clarified.”

The court must at all stages of the proceedings, and specifically at the FHDRA, consider whether domestic violence is raised as an issue, either by the parties or Cafcass (Child and Family Court Advisory and Support Service) or otherwise. The Court will decide whether a fact-finding hearing is necessary by reference to the revised Practice Direction 12J Child Arrangements & Contact Order: Domestic Violence and Harm, which sets out what the Family Court should do in any case in which it is alleged or admitted, or there is other reason to believe, that the child or a party has experienced domestic violence or abuse perpetrated by another party or that there is a risk of such violence

or abuse.

If a Finding of Fact Hearing is required, then this is distinct and separate from other hearings. It can be a lengthy process and on average can last anywhere between 1-3 days. In some of the most serious cases of alleged domestic abuse it can last well over two weeks.

Such hearings, often seen as “mini-trials” can be financially taxing not to mention emotionally difficult for the parties involved. It is not an easy task, and a lot of time and preparation is needed coupled with the potential of such hearing causing further damage to the already fractious relationships of the parties.

There is a fine line to be drawn but care should be taken when pursuing the need for a Finding of Fact hearing and the underlying message it that it must be “necessary”. The court has a significant workload as it is, and it is only right that the court prioritises cases that Sir Andrew McFarlane refers to as those that “really do need to be heard”.

If you are affected by any of the issues raised here, please get in touch today. We are here to help you.

Court and contact with Children – What is the process?

Posted on 19th May 202219th May 2022 by McAlister Family Law

Court and contact with children – What is the process?

Are you feeling like you are on a constant contact rollercoaster, trying to agree arrangements with the other parent or carer, and knots of worry tangle you up each week? Here, Nicola Bradley breaks down the process of applying for a Child Arrangements Order and what a successful application can mean for those struggling with contact.

Does the following apply to you? Are you asking yourself if you will get to see your child? Perhaps your message is going to be left on “read” with no response. Are you always getting messages late so that last minute plans have to be made, or feeling like you are an on call babysitter and there is no structure in place. Maybe you have attended or proposed mediation, as well as other forms of Alternative Dispute Resolution (ADR) but this has not been successful.

What can you do in this situation? It might feel like whatever you have tried before has only been met with more complications when trying to organise contact. But when you have tried everything else and nothing has worked, there may only be one option left; Court.

Should I apply to the Court?

It is common for parents to start giving themselves a hard time when court feels like your only option. But it is important to remember that being a parent or carer, although a great privilege, is incredibly challenging, and court intervention can sometimes be required to allow for a firm arrangement to be put into place. Most people see court as a last resort, but it is a real option in resolving contact issues, putting the welfare of the child at the forefront and making sure that the right outcome is found.

So what happens next?

An application for a Child Arrangements Order (CAO) is made by completing the court’s C100 form. A CAO can define who the children live with; who the children spend time with, including how often and whether that contact is supervised or not; and any indirect contact such as letters or facetime calls, including their frequency.

You can also use the C100 to apply for a Specific Issue Order (SIO) if you would like the court to decide on a particular issue, such as where the child should go to school or what surname they should have. It is also used to apply for Prohibited Steps Orders (PSO) which prevent the other parent from performing a certain action, such as removing the child from the jurisdiction.

Again, the welfare of the child is paramount concern for the court and the court has to have regard to the Welfare Checklist contained in s1(3) Children Act 1989.

the Children and Family Court Advisory and Support Service (“Cafcass”) may also be involved in your case. Cafcass are an independent body appointed by the court to make recommendations based on what is safe and, in the best interest of the child(ren). After an application is issued, Cafcass will usually speak to the parties involved and prepare an initial safeguarding letter in advance of the First Hearing Dispute Resolution Appointment (FHDRA).

In some cases, particularly where the issues are narrow, it is possible that matters could be resolved at the FHDRA. More often, the court will use the FHDRA as an opportunity to listen to the parties’ positions and make directions for further evidence to be obtained, and/or for Cafcass to conduct a more detailed safeguarding analysis known as a Section 7 Report, in advance of a Dispute Resolution Appointment (DRA).

The court typically lists DRAs for 60-90 minutes to try to enable agreement/a final order, if possible. If not, the matter will be listed for a contested final hearing before the court can determine the final child arrangements.

Whether or not the matter proceeds through to a final hearing, the court process is not a short one and generally takes between 6-12 months to complete, sometimes longer depending on the complexity of the case.

If you are experiencing difficulties agreeing arrangements for your children, please contact us as soon as possible. Our experienced family law solicitors will help you in trying to achieve the best possible outcome.