What can I do if my ex stops me seeing my child?
If your ex‑partner has suddenly stopped contact, it can feel frightening, frustrating and overwhelming. It’s a situation many parents face after separating, and it often leaves people unsure about their rights or what steps to take next.
Melissa Jones, Senior Associate regularly helps parents in the above situation and details below how to navigate this issue.
The key thing to remember is this: your rights as a parent don’t disappear simply because contact has stopped.
Can one parent stop contact?
Generally, no. One parent shouldn’t stop contact unless there’s a good reason, particularly where there are no concerns about a child’s safety or wellbeing. The family court expects parents to support and encourage a relationship with the other parent wherever it’s safe for the child.
Despite this, contact is often stopped after a separation, sometimes due to conflict, misunderstandings, or breakdowns in communication.
What should I do first?
If it’s safe to do so, try to address the issue calmly. This might involve:
- Asking why contact has been stopped
- Suggesting temporary arrangements
- Exploring mediation
However, mediation isn’t always appropriate, especially if:
- There are safeguarding concerns
- All contact has been cut off
- Communication between you has broken down entirely
Do I need to go to mediation?
Parents are expected to attend a MIAM (Mediation Information and Assessment Meeting) before applying to court.
But there are several valid exemptions, including:
- Urgent situations
- Domestic abuse
- Risks to the child
- Circumstances where mediation simply isn’t suitable
We can advise you on whether an exemption applies in your situation.
What if contact still doesn’t restart?
If the situation cannot be resolved, you may need to apply to the family court for a child arrangements order. This is an order that sets out:
- Where your child lives
- When they spend time with each parent
The court’s priority is always the child’s best interests.
What role does Cafcass play?
In most cases, Cafcass will become involved. They carry out safeguarding checks and speak to both parents before the first hearing. Their role is to assist the court and ensure the child’s welfare is properly considered.
How long does it take?
Timescales vary, but getting early legal advice can help avoid unnecessary delays and ensure the right steps are taken, especially if contact has stopped completely.
Because the first hearing can take time to be listed, it’s important to act quickly. Delays at the beginning often lead to further delays later on.
Getting legal advice
If your ex has stopped you seeing your child, early guidance can help you understand your options and prevent the situation from escalating.
We can advise you on whether court action is appropriate and support you through every stage of the process with clarity and reassurance. Get in touch today [email protected] .
